tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29191579.post2611257176734950466..comments2023-08-16T05:36:02.314-05:00Comments on a revolution without dancing: cappucinos and Kierkegaard, in which our heroine falls for a philosophizing fellowcrackers and cheesehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15903450123621135348noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29191579.post-15704258097192605922008-08-11T22:52:00.000-05:002008-08-11T22:52:00.000-05:00Agreed, the one-sided conversations were already g...Agreed, the one-sided conversations were already giving me strong doubts, but I was enjoying the attention, and then BAM! he's married. I really think God was gracious to reveal that to me when he did, though having found out much sooner would have been far better!crackers and cheesehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15903450123621135348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29191579.post-69373565751924339382008-08-11T21:52:00.000-05:002008-08-11T21:52:00.000-05:00That dirty SOB. That revelation really threw me fo...That dirty SOB. That revelation really threw me for a loop. What a dirt ball. You don't sit around flirting with young girls as a married man, not wear a wedding ring (I'm guessing) and not tell them that you're married.<BR/><BR/>And, on top of that, a dude who is only interested in a one-sided conversation is not the dude for you. And this is coming from a guy who's done that to girls more than once.<BR/><BR/>Mechk.Anton Seimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03241903691845785010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29191579.post-15949438293412416792008-07-25T21:51:00.000-05:002008-07-25T21:51:00.000-05:00So, I think this all came about because I was thin...So, I think this all came about because I was thinking about this awful story or yours. I dreamed a horrific nightmare. I dreamed that Shawn told me that he was married with 3 children, and had been that way the whole 2 years we had been dating. I remember screaming at him, "I don't ever want to see you again, Dickwad!" I hope that if something like that ever happens, I'll find a better expletive to use than 'dickwad,' but I don't believe there are words to express that most horrible feeling. I remember thinking that Shawn is one of the people I most trust in the entire world (true), and how could I ever trust anyone again if my instincts and love of two years had so blatantly deceived me? Dreams like that sure aren't pleasant, but short of actually living it they truly give you insight into what other people feel. I'm still revved up for driving to TX and smashing the dick's glasses.The Pensive Poethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11543382066991071178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29191579.post-11881850844427561642008-07-23T17:18:00.000-05:002008-07-23T17:18:00.000-05:00I'm with Britt - I'll smash things. Any things. T...I'm with Britt - I'll smash things. Any things. <BR/><BR/>That's insane. But not going to lie - I was highly amused reading it all.<BR/><BR/>Excellent piece of creative nonfiction :) Although I am sorry it was so loser-man inspired.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01904780627478019049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29191579.post-21375429562010012972008-07-23T09:43:00.000-05:002008-07-23T09:43:00.000-05:00Thank you Britt, and I really appreciate your supp...Thank you Britt, and I really appreciate your support :)<BR/><BR/>Fortunately, avoiding him will be pretty easy since I know what he drives (which sounds stalkerish, but really one time we just kinda walked out to the parking lot together and I saw what he drove). If I see that truck with the Don't Mess With Texas bumper sticker on the back, I can just turn around, and drive half a mile down the road to the other independently owned coffee shop in town with free wi-fi. How convenient that they're located on the same street! The owners of this shop (a young married couple) are really great - they really know the coffee business and have been making great improvements, so I will continue to support them.crackers and cheesehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15903450123621135348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29191579.post-43182061666058472232008-07-23T08:52:00.000-05:002008-07-23T08:52:00.000-05:00I'll smash his glasses for you. Just tell me when...I'll smash his glasses for you. Just tell me when and where! ; )<BR/><BR/>Seriously, don't even feel guilty or bad about this for a minute. He deceitfully led you on. I think some people just like the feel of someone having a crush on them--it makes them feel like they "still have it." You guys talked way too many times for him to wait that long to tell you he had a wife. I agree and strongly suggest not going back to that coffee shop for at least 6 months (maybe you'll tell the owner it's nothing personal so you can stay friends with them?). His behavior is completely unacceptable and it's not good for your heart to be jerked around, as you mentioned in your post. Ug, I'm so sorry you had to go through that!The Pensive Poethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11543382066991071178noreply@blogger.com